We Have More Work To Do, Mel

I love Mel Robbins! The NYT best-selling author and podcaster is real, vulnerable, and tells it straight. She has announced she will go on tour to cities across the US again in 2026, promoting her brilliant book, “The Let Them Theory”.

Why the “Let Them” Theory Resonates

Why has her “Let Them” theory resonated with millions across the globe already? Because Mel offers insight and practical tools for curbing an innate urge that every human being has - to assert control over people and situations when we feel threatened, usually by fear. This urge to control usually never ends well in our relationships.

I have spent the last year speaking with groups of women who readily admit that the urge to control is often present in their relationships, with spouses, partners, children, family members, co-workers and friends. They find Mel’s storytelling hits the mark in terms of what to do when the urge to control arises “Let Them, Let Me”.  In other words, let others be who they are and let me take personal responsibility for my emotions and actions in these situations. It is a refreshing, practical perspective, helping us stop the exhausting and fruitless effort of trying to be in control.

Adding the Missing Piece — “Let God”

What I have further explored this past year with women is incorporating “Let God” as the third step, making this a powerful approach to managing our relationships because it addresses the hardwired need every human has - to feel accepted and loved.

As humans, we try mightily, but our love is imperfect and cannot fulfill our innate need alone. We know we are not in control of anything this side of heaven, yet we get tripped up here so often.

Mel’s “Let Them, Let Me” approach provides a solid foundation for happier relationships. But when we learn to also “Let God”, surrendering our control to His will, we are met with amazing grace and peace in these situations. Not just sometimes, but every time! In the smallest moments or the biggest situations of our lives. It does not matter. What a way to live! In freedom, knowing that it will be as it should, and His ways are always better than our own.

Surrender — My Word for 2026

Last month, I shared that I am devoted to a yearly practice of discerning a word as a focus for my attention.  A word that I feel God has called to sharpen me. In 2026,  my word is “surrender”. 

According to author Vic Clesceri, in his book, The Way of Surrender (2025), surrender is both a moment and a lifelong practice. It’s not a one-and-done experience. It requires our attention in the moments of our lives, throughout our lives. For me, this year “surrender” will require pause, reflection, prayer, reading scripture, listening intently, and sharing in community, our @Well Community!

Living “Let Them, Let Me, Let God”

I am so excited to share the enthusiasm for Mel Robbins foundational genius this year as she traverses the country and expand upon “Let Them, Let Me” by adding the spiritual dimension of “Let God” - surrender. These are practical wellness tools for life and I’ll be sharing my personal journey of surrender along the way.

If you or someone you know is looking for a wellness workshop or keynote address, our Wellness for Women Speakers Series is an opportunity to share! Email me: kelly@well-simple.com. Or follow us Facebook & Instagram! to stay current on our 2026 Wellness for Women live events. 

Be Well & Happy New Year ❤️

Kelly

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